On The Bachelorette season 20, episode 6, Charity Lawson visited the hometowns of Aaron Bryant, Dotun Olubeko, Joey Graziadei, and Xavier Bonner, and made the difficult decision to send home Aaron. Charity, a 27-year-old child and family therapist from Columbus, Georgia, has now narrowed down her group of men from 25 to three. These final three men now have the possibility of staying overnight in the Fantasy Suites with Charity.
On The Bachelorette season 20, Charity's hometown dates were mostly successful, and all four men have now told her that they're falling in love with her. She was very conflicted after she said goodbye to Aaron, but it seems like she made the best choice, since their connection wasn't as strong as the other men before their hometown date. Here are the top 10 biggest moments from episode 6.
10 Charity Lawson Admits She & Aaron Bryant Are Behind Her Other Relationships
Before Charity's hometown date with Aaron in Houston, Texas began, she shared in her confessional that they started off, "on top of the world." She said that on their first date, she had no doubt that he could be her husband. However, Charity admitted that other connections had grown, and she hoped to get back on track, to where she and Aaron were at the beginning.
During the outing, Charity told Aaron that their first date was special in so many ways, and that their hometown date would be important, so they could feel the same way again. Aaron said in his confessional that it had been ten years since he brought someone home to his parents. Before Charity met his parents, Aaron pointed out that they hadn't talked about love yet. He told her that he wished that they were at that point before she met his parents, but with the connection that they had, they could take that leap.
In her confessional, Charity shared that it was scary because she and Aaron were probably the furthest behind. However, the connection was visibly there. She said that she was hopeful that meeting his family could completely change her whole outlook, shifting her perspective on things.
9 Charity Meets Aaron's Family
Aaron brought Charity to his family's home in Houston, Texas, where she met his mom Ethel, dad Eddie, older brother Edward, younger brother Erick, and Erick's wife, Audrey. In his confessional, Aaron revealed that his mom would be the hardest relative to win over. Although she was very welcoming, she once locked one of his exes in a room for 45 minutes, so they could have a chat. Aaron's mom cooked frogs' legs, catfish, green beans, gumbo, and fried lobster for the family.
Charity told the cameras that Aaron's family was so sweet. From the moment she walked through the door, there was, "an immediate feeling of love." She said that she was, "engulfed with warm, positive energy." Aaron and Charity filled his family in on their connection, telling the story of their relationship. Erick told the cameras that Aaron's face and body language told him that he really does care about her. He said that he was happy for him. Erick told Aaron that Charity was, "a nice girl." Aaron replied that even though Erick was his younger brother, he was his role model, especially in terms of his relationship with Audrey.
In her confessional, Aaron's mother shared that Aaron is warm and loving. All she wanted was for him to be happy, and to be loved by someone who cares about him as much as she does. She and Charity had a great conversation, after which she told the cameras that she was very pleased with her. During their chat, she asked Charity if she was ready to say yes if Aaron proposed.
Charity admitted that she probably wouldn't say yes, but her answer wouldn't be a reflection of Aaron or where she stood with him. Rather, it would be because she values what a proposal means, and she only wants to do it once. She wants to be one hundred percent certain. Aaron's mother agreed that she should take it seriously. Charity later said in her confessional that her time with Aaron's family was going well, but she didn't know if they could get to a proposal with the time they had.
Aaron's dad then told her that they were so grateful that Aaron invited her to their home, but it blew his mind that he would do something like this. She said that meeting him and the rest of the family was the missing puzzle piece that was helping her to see the whole picture, due to how loving they were. Aaron's dad said that Aaron wanted to share something with someone for the rest of his life, before the age of 30.
In his confessional, Aaron's dad said that he thought that Aaron was "pretty smitten." When Aaron spoke to him, he told him that he wanted to find a love like his dad and mom had. His told him that Charity was a, "sharp, articulate, beautiful young lady," and called her, "a keeper." Aaron became emotional when his dad hugged him and told him he loved him more than anything. Aaron was so happy to hear that his father was proud of him.
Aaron's mom told him that even though he was a young man, he was still her baby. She told him she was proud of him for following his heart. She added that she more than liked Charity, and said that Aaron and Charity definitely have something. Aaron said that everything just felt so right. When Charity left Aaron's family, she said that she couldn't wait to come back. In her confessional, she said that Aaron's family was one that she'd want to be in. She could envision her future kids with their grandparents in their home because it made sense.
8 Aaron Surprises Charity
Aaron later brought Charity to a football field for a picnic because football has been a huge part of his life. He said that throughout high school, it was all he ever focused on. He gave Charity a letterman jacket with her name on the back, which matched his own. He then told her that he really felt like he was falling in love with her. Charity said in her confessional that she felt that the sky was the limit for the both of them.
Aaron then played Lauren Alaina's song, "Just Wanna Know That You Love Me," which she had sung for them at a private concert on their one-on-one date. They danced on the football field, and Charity cried while they held each other. In her confessional, she said she felt so good after the date. She knew that Aaron loved and cared for her. She added that if it was her and Aaron at the end, she, "would have not a worry in this world." Charity said that her wish for the day was that she and Aaron could get back on track, and they did, and were moving at full force.
7 Charity Meets Joey's Family
At the beginning of Joey's hometown date in Collegeville, Pennsylvania, Charity opened up in her confessional. She said that last week, Joey told her that he was falling in love with her. She then revealed that, if all went well, she would be telling Joey that she was falling in love with him too. Charity was looking forward to a great day.
Joey, who is a tennis pro and instructor, brought Charity to the tennis court to give her first lesson. He gifted her with a tennis outfit, which she changed into. While they were on their date, his beloved Uncle Joe, who was his mentor, surprised Joey. In his confessional, Joey said that his uncle was the most special person in his life, and, in lots of ways, the person who made him the man that he is today. He revealed that Joe's opinion was the one that mattered the most to him because he knew him the best, so it was huge that he was there.
Uncle Joe told the cameras that he liked Charity, and she seemed fantastic, but something didn't feel one hundred percent right with Joey. He couldn't pinpoint specifically what it was - it was more of a feeling. He wanted to find out if Joey was thinking things through.
Before Charity met the rest of Joey's family, she admitted that she was nervous. She said that she never met a family that wasn't the same race as her. Joey understood, and said that he had nothing but high hopes and excitement. Charity was still considering telling Joey that she was falling in love with him, but she hadn't said it in a while, and felt nervous. Charity met Joey's mom Cathy, his dad Nick, his sister Ellie, his sister Carly, her husband Zach, and Uncle Joe.
Charity told Carly that she was falling in love with Joey, when Carly asked. When Joey spoke to his mom, he told her that he and Charity had talked about being in an interracial marriage. His mom told him that if he was being real, there would be no doubt that Charity would fall in love with him. Joey questioned if his mom was doubting if he was being authentic. She said no, and he asked why she was worried. His mom said that she was afraid he could get his heart broken, and she cried.
6 Charity Doesn't Tell Joey That She's Falling In Love With Him
Joey later asked Uncle Joe for his unfiltered opinion because he needed it. He told him that he liked Charity, but, on the tennis court, Joey didn't seem comfortable, and seemed anxious. He admitted that his biggest concern was if Joey was portraying himself, or playing a part for Charity's sake. He reminded him that they'd, "been down this road a ton. Has this experience been about you being you?" Joey answered that he was, "very confident" that he'd been his most genuine self with Charity.
In his confessional, Uncle Joe said that Joey is, "a little bit of a pleaser," and it was his fear that he could become somebody that the other person wanted him to be. He wanted to see Joey in a relationship where he was comfortable being a hundred percent Joey. He told Joey it was hitting him like a ton of bricks that he might ask Charity to marry him. He confessed that he was cynical about them getting engaged after such a short amount of time.
Joey told the cameras that none of it surprised him, and he felt confident about Charity, regardless of his uncle's thoughts. He told his uncle that he hoped that the next time he saw him, he'd be engaged to Charity. Uncle Joe told the cameras that it would be challenging to make sure it's real. He wanted to talk to Charity. Before their conversation, Charity said that she felt very confident about where her relationship with Joey was headed, so she planned to tell him that she was falling in love with him.
However, Uncle Joe told Charity that he didn't know if Joey was currently ready to be a husband and dad, although he'd be great at it someday. Uncle Joe told Charity that Joey oftentimes tries to be somebody that he thinks others want him to be. He told her that on the tennis court, he got a vibe that Joey was trying to be somebody that Charity wants. When Uncle Joe asked Charity how confident she was that she had the genuine, real Joey, she said that she was fairly confident.
However, Charity told the cameras that she was very much confused. It was concerning and alarming, and maybe she was missing something, but she didn't know what. After the family meeting, Joey again told Charity he was falling in love with her. Charity ended up not telling him the same. In her confessional, she said, "I think I came in here obviously wanting everything to go supergreat. But it didn't go bad; it went good."
Charity cried when she said goodbye to Joey, which confused him. He said that their conversation felt weird, and she seemed kind of uncomfortable. Joey admitted that every time he'd left her before, he'd felt confident, but this time, for some reason, he just didn't. He wondered if it could be the end for them.
5 Xavier Bonner Bonds With Charity Over Knitting
Before her hometown date with Xavier in Cleveland, Ohio, Charity said in her confessional that Xavier made her extremely happy. However, he also reminded her of past people she dated, with whom she wasn't a priority, which was concerning. She wanted to see if the parts that made her a little nervous with him could be put to rest. Xavier brought Charity to a yarn store, where they joined a knitting class. Xavier took up knitting as a hobby to relieve stress. He works in a lab all day.
Xavier even knitted Charity a scarf during the season, which he gave her a few weeks earlier. During the date, Xavier taught Charity how to knit, which showed her a different side of him. He was very patient. Xavier said in his confessional that he could see himself and Charity doing artistic things together that would last a lifetime. Charity told the cameras that she saw a wholesome side of Xavier, which made her heart swell. She said that he continued to show her so much more about him, and there was "a thrill" to that. She admitted that it was exactly what she needed to see that day.
Xavier and Charity then went to The Blue Café, during which they discussed his fears about getting engaged. Charity confessed that it scared her. Xavier told her that he would strive to push himself to be better for her. Charity told the cameras that she was ready, but she was afraid because she didn't know if he was ready.
4 Charity Meets Xavier's Family & He Tells Her He's Falling In Love With Her
In her confessional, Charity said that as soon as they walked into the house, Xavier's family had an overwhelming energy that reflected so much love and happiness. Charity met Xavier's mom Tracey, dad Clarence, and his sister Chelsea. His mom has multiple sclerosis, which was why he decided to go into biomedical research. Xavier's mom told the cameras that she was shocked by the energy between Charity and Xavier. She said that they seemed like they'd been together for a very long time.
Chelsea asked Charity if she was falling in love with Xavier. Charity admitted she was, "in between the 'in like' and falling in love." She told her that she hadn't verbalized the falling in love part yet, and neither had he. She wasn't sure that Xavier was ready for engagement, and asked Chelsea if she thought he was. She answered that he'd been looking for his person for a while now. She told Charity that in every single relationship he'd had, he'd been super serious. Chelsea made Charity feel that Xavier had a purpose and a plan, and Charity said in her confessional that there was nothing more attractive.
When Charity spoke to Xavier's mom, she asked him if he was truly ready for an engagement. She answered that she knows she wants to get married and be a dad. His fear comes from the short amount of time that he's known Charity. Xavier's dad told him that he wouldn't want a relationship to be frivolous. Xavier replied that there's definitely love in the air, but asked him how a person knows when it's right and everlasting love. His dad answered that it's, "a feeling when you're with that person where nothing else matters." He told him to love unconditionally.
Xavier told his mom that he felt that he was ready, and ready with Charity. However, he wasn't sure if Charity would choose him. His mom told him that she'd never seen him like that before. She could tell that he had that connection with Charity. She advised him not to hold back about how he was feeling. Chelsea told him that she loved Charity, and she could see them as potential partners.
Xavier said in his confessional that having his family's support gave him so much confidence. He told Charity that he felt so good about how the hometown date went, and so excited about where they were. Xavier then told Charity that he was falling in love with her. Charity admitted in her confessional that hearing those words was so reassuring for her.
Charity said that her feelings had intensified times a hundred, and she wasn't conflicted with where she stood and how she felt with everything and everyone. Charity expressed that she and Xavier were making sense of each other, and now they were, "just elevating." She told the cameras that she was walking away feeling so good, and Xavier could be her husband.
3 Dotun Olubeko's Parents Surprise Him & Charity
When Charity traveled to Fresno, California to meet Dotun's family, she was disappointed to hear that his parents were in Nigeria, so she wouldn't be meeting them. Instead, she'd meet his grandmother and siblings. Dotun's grandmother cooked food for the family. In her confessional, she said that she could see that Dotun and Charity were, "bonded from Heaven." Dotun's family was happy to hear that Charity had tasted Nigerian food before, as her best friend is Nigerian.
During the meal, Dotun's parents surprised him and Charity by walking into the backyard. Dotun was ecstatic that they sacrificed their time in Nigeria to be there for him. However, he admitted that it come with challenges as well, because his mom Adenike's very critical. However, he wanted her input.
Dotun's mom told him that she liked Charity, and she seemed to be pleasant. However, she reminded him that there were other guys involved. She asked him if he was falling in love or in love with her. Dotun replied that he was falling in love, but when his brain matched what his heart was feeling, then he could call it true love. Dotun's mom said that she hoped and prayed that Charity felt the same about him because she was concerned about her hurting him at the end of this process.
Dotun's sister told Charity that he's not the type to be very vulnerable, so that was how she knew that, for him, this was real. She added that she could tell that Charity was very special to Dotun. When Charity asked if what she was seeing was the real Dotun, his sister answered absolutely. Charity was concerned about that after her hometown date with Joey. Dotun's dad told her that he would be ready to propose. His brother said that Dotun doesn't date around. He was a long-term guy, and was the most faithful man he'd ever seen.
Charity cried as she told Dotun's mother that it meant the absolute world to her that she was there, and she was so grateful. When his mother asked where she was now with her son, Charity answered that he was somebody who was, "truly super special." She had a feeling that she couldn't put into words, but she just felt it and knew it was there. Dotun's mother promised Charity that if she picked him, she would whisk her to Nigeria and give her a nice wedding, "big time."
Dotun's mother told Charity that she adopted her already, and she was her daughter. She told the cameras that she liked her, and she would embrace her if she became her daughter-in-law. Dotun's grandmother told Charity that she loved her. In her confessional, Charity said that Dotun's family showed her nothing but love and embraced her. She said that her feelings for Dotun were now even stronger.
2 Dotun Surprises Charity
After the family meeting, Dotun surprised Charity with a ride in a classic white Thunderbird car. He drove her to the drive-in movie theater, which touched her because she told the cameras that her dad had brought her mom to the drive-in when they were dating. She said that she was a person who looked for direct signs, and when she was with Dotun, she got things that told her it felt right. Dotun played a film for her that contained baby and childhood photographs and home videos of them, which they watched while hugging, while they were wrapped in a blanket together.
In the video, there were also scenes from their current relationship. Charity began to cry as she relived those moments, which she said in her confessional were so special and meaningful. Dotun told the cameras that the connection that they shared was so strong, and an engagement had never felt more real than it did right now. He concluded by saying that he was ready for this movie to have a happy ending.
1 Charity Says Goodbye To Aaron
During a conversation with host Jesse Palmer, Charity admitted that she didn't get the clarity she needed during hometown dates. Every relationship had gotten stronger, and it was making her decision a lot harder. Charity told Jesse that she was falling in love with Aaron, Xavier, Dotun, and Joey. However, she only felt doubt with Joey because of his Uncle Joe. Charity cried because she knew that she and one of the men would be heartbroken that night.
Joey told Jesse that he wasn't just falling in love with Charity, but was now in love with her, and he wished that he told Charity that. Aaron, Dotun, and Xavier were excited about their connections as well. Although Charity was conflicted because she was falling in love with all four of the men, she ultimately sent Aaron home. Aaron was shocked because he expected to receive a rose. In her confessional, Charity explained that she followed her gut in that she had connections with other people, and they were stronger.
However, Charity admitted to the cameras that, if she had more time, she probably would've gotten there with Aaron. She told Aaron that she needed him to understand how difficult the decision was for her. She admitted that the reality was that she still didn't know if she was making the right choice. Aaron told her that he hated that it wasn't him because he felt feelings that he never felt before. He thanked God for her. Charity told him that he deserved the absolute best, and she knew he'd find it. She said she was sorry it wasn't her. Charity and Aaron hugged, and she walked him out.
In the limousine, Aaron cried that he saw so much in Charity, and knew that he wanted to make her his wife. He said that he was ready to propose, and he didn't know what he did wrong. Charity told the cameras that it was really hard seeing him go. She was trying to make sense of what she just did. Charity lamented that she was falling in love with someone, and yet she sent him home.
Charity said that the more that she thought about it, the more she realized that sending Aaron home was, "the most absurd" thing she'd ever done. She worried that she'd just made, "the absolute wrong decision." Next, Charity will look forward to the Fantasy Suites and, hopefully, an engagement. However, according to The Bachelorette season 20 previews, a surprise visitor could change everything for Charity.
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