Summary
- Riley's relationship with Violet is toxic due to his constant doubts and lack of trust, fueled by past experiences of infidelity and Violet's own suspicious behavior.
- Viewers initially sympathized with Riley but have turned against him, believing he sought out a submissive woman in Vietnam, rather than true love.
- Riley's aggression and impatience make him unlikable, as he crosses boundaries, lacks respect, and undermines trust in his relationship with Violet.
Riley from 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days is in a tough relationship with Violet, but he doesn’t get much sympathy. The 48-year-old New York-based military veteran is one of the newcomers on the hit reality TV show. He met his 43-year-old Vietnamese lover on a dating website, and things were great at first. However, the two couldn’t take their relationship to the next level due to constant doubts and a lack of trust. Despite being with each other for two years, Riley still doesn’t feel at home with Violet. He thinks she’s cheating on him.
There are many reasons why Riley's in a toxic relationship with Violet. He's had former partners who weren't faithful. Therefore, he believes that Violet will do the same, particularly as she's exhibited signs of infidelity. Previously, the Vietnamese single mom falsified the timeline of her divorce. This lie pushed Riley over the edge, making him even more suspicious. The American man even hired a private investigator to stalk his partner. At the same time, Violet treated Riley badly. The pair don’t know how to show love, which makes them more incompatible.
Riley Appears To Be Looking For A Submissive Woman
90 Day Fiancé viewers initially felt bad for Riley and sympathized with his situation. However, many fans have begun turning on the man, believing he got what he deserved. Over the weeks, the 48-year-old man’s actions have made people realize that he was looking for a submissive woman, rather than true love. Fans believe that the New York reality star Riley purposely targeted a country like Vietnam to find a woman who would serve him. In a recent Reddit thread (via Catladydiva), someone said, “He’s your typical passport bro who thinks dating non - black women is going to be a walk in the park.”
Riley Gets Aggressive Easily
Riley may lack patience, and that makes him unlikable. During one memorable scene, Riley saw Violet get a personal message from another man. It was a topless picture that Violet claimed was nothing major. She stated that it was just a friend who sent her that. However, Riley didn’t listen. He got angry, rather than waiting to find out more. He clearly felt it was a "gotcha" moment, and used it to push Violet into showing him her phone. As expected, it didn’t work out.
Instead of trying to build communication, trust, and faith with Violet, Riley's purposely ruining his relationship by stepping over boundaries. By doubting her, he has destroyed his reputation in front of Violet’s family. He has worsened his image on social media by showing a lack of respect. Riley likes to show the middle finger to express his emotions to Violet. That isn’t just immature for his age, but also a terrible way to treat a partner. Still, there’s hope that Riley and Violet will be able to resolve their differences in upcoming episodes of 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days.
Sources: Catladydiva/Reddit, Riley/Instagram